Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.
— Oscar Wilde.
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I was thinking about the five components that keep us from leaving our comfort zone (fear, guilt, unworthiness, hurt feelings and anger) and only two really resonate with me: fear and hurt feelings. I can actually combine the two to create one big stumbling block which is FEAR OF HURT FEELINGS. Yes, I’m an adult, but I’ve always been extremely sensitive which isn’t easy when you’re in network marketing.
I managed to overcome my other fears and get out of my comfort zone when I started the industry 12 years ago. Unfortunately, I’ve been battered and bruised by several companies and my so called ‘warm’ market. My first experience might have destroyed my belief in the industry because both my sponsor (my nephew) and his sponsor left the company after receiving more than $15,000 from me. But I pushed through for a year and grew a team on my own until the company (Emerald Passport) closed its doors on me and my team. They did that when I was on a plane leaving a two-week company training event. Now it makes sense that the owner, only known as ‘Sam’, wouldn’t allow us to take pictures of him during the event. My team probably thought that I was the scammer and I was devastated.
Then there were ground floor opportunities that never got off the ground; a shady cash gifting opportunity where no one ever revealed their last names, an energy company that wasn’t available in the state I moved to; a couple of Ponzi schemes and a well known wellness company starting with the letters MELA that refused to turn off my mother’s auto ship when she died. They wanted a death certificate, so I quit the business.
My niece no longer speaks to me. She joined me in my energy business. She needed one more customer to receive a special bonus. Since she was busy at work, I took it upon myself to ask her aunt, my sister in law, to please switch her electricity (and save $$$) to help our niece. My niece berated me when she found out that I had helped her behind her back and never spoke to me again.
My cousin excitedly joined me in a company called SendOutCards. I brought it to her because she always raved about the beautiful personalized, cards I’d send and because I thought it would be a huge help in her real estate business. Turns out the cousin (who also called me her ‘ sister’) recently lied to people (my family) and said that she ‘lent’ me money to help me with my business and I never paid her back (and she’s a multi-millionaire!) On a side note, I also found out that she had slandered me decades before to my parents, her parents and my grandmother. We were single and went on a cruise together. The last night of the cruise she locked me out of our cabin so she could have sex with our favorite bartender. I was actually physically attacked as I wandered the ship alone in the middle of the night. I never spoke of it to anyone but found out years later that she told my whole family that I had locked her out of the room. So, apparently, I lost a relationship with a pathological liar. And on and on it goes…… I’ve lost relationships because I’ve chosen a profession that ignorant people tend to call a ‘pyramid scheme’ but in their defense, they don’t know what they don’t know. There are more stories, but I think you get the point.
But I persist and I win. Yes, the hurt feelings still sting and yes, I buy and call leads because strangers have no power to hurt me. I’ve grown to love cold calling (or actually the Law of Dual thought worked well as I convinced myself that I love it!) The people I’ve lost over the business apparently weren’t worth much – at least I wasn’t worth much to them. I’ve forgiven them, but the memory persists as I hesitate to call warm market.
How will I use my fear of hurt feelings as a tool to my ultimate success? That is the big question that I will continue to ponder. I’ve been with the most amazing company for a year and a half and the products and opportunity have changed my life. It’s a joy to help people and work with an honest company and people with integrity. I must get past it because I have an obligation to share my current products with people I care about. I can save lives and improve their quality of life. My cousin (a good one) called and thanked me for saving her life with our products. Maybe the thing I’m pretending not to know is that I MUST overcome my aversion to my warm market because I care about them more than my ‘hurt feelings.’
I write this blog late because I’ve been dealing with illness for a few weeks. Since True Health is my dharma, it has been quite a different experience than my “usual” illnesses. As a person missing a functioning immune system, I know all too well that every day is a gift. Every day spent not feeling sick is a gift as well. Actually, I found out I’m 10 years past my life expectancy – WOW! Looking through obituaries had me thinking, why am I still here?
Scroll V of Og’s book hit home for me ‘Why have I been allowed to live this extra day (or decade) when others, better than I, have departed? Is it that they have accomplished their purpose while mine is yet to be achieved?’ THAT’S IT! My purpose is yet to be achieved. How fabulous is it that at this stage of my life I get another chance. Honestly, before this course (and finding the business of my dreams..), I had no purpose. I was just trying to be a good person, stay alive and enjoy whatever I could.
Why else would I have been blessed with the gifts of extra time and a business I love other than God wanting me to find and achieve my purpose of helping others. Why else would this course have found its way to me?
Before MKE every illness sent me into a state of depression and fear thinking that this might the ‘one’; the illness that takes me out and sends me to hang out with all of my deceased loved ones. This time, I started to head down the dark road of despair, but the many tools we’ve learned have taught me to take a U-Turn and remember to be ‘whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.’ I can be what I WILL to be and I WILL be healthy, no…. I AM healthy and the first person cured of this disease.
I no longer fear death. I only fear dying with my song still in my heart.
Ever since we experienced kindness week, I’m noticing kindness everywhere. I always considered myself a kind person, as a matter of fact I’ve been told I’m overly kind sometimes (maybe even been called a doormat.) Apparently, there’s always room for improvement. There seems to be a kindness growth spurt in myself and as a result it’s coming toward me too. Give more, get more.
It’s even little things I’m noticing. I was in a public restroom, went into a stall that had no toilet tissue. I automatically moved to another stall. Normally, I’d just wash my hands and leave. Without hesitation, I found the TP supply and put 2 rolls in the first stall. I washed my hands and a piece of my paper towel ripped as I was tearing it and it fell to the floor. My old self would have thought, that’s what maintenance workers are for…. I picked it up.
A man came into my new home to give me an estimate for window treatments. We chatted and he told me that his next stop was to coach a soccer game. I said, “wow, I guess you won’t have time for dinner.” While he was measuring, I made up a goodie bag for him with cheeses, nuts, etc. He was so happy. My husband asked me why I did that. I said, “Just to be kind.” Kindness without expecting reciprocity is incredibly satisfying. Expecting reciprocity throughout my life was something that always hurt me (I’m blue.) My husband often told me I’d be happier when I stop expecting people to be like me.
People I’ve known my entire life are suddenly saying kind things to me, even on social media. Speaking of social media, I was feeling kind of hurt that my 30-year-old nephew/Godson was getting engaged last week and never told me. I’ve always loved and gifted him without expecting anything in return. He is like a son to me. I figured I’d just see the pictures on social media. I let go of the hurt through the tools I’ve been learning during this course. He called me and left a voice mail, “I had to call you. I’m on my way to ask Jenny to be my wife. I just wanted to let you know what an impact you’ve had on my life. Thank you for always being there to nurture me through God. Thank you for everything. I love you.” Those kind words were worth the 30 year wait and brought me to tears.
Even the new friends I’ve made since I moved to SC seven years ago are suddenly thanking me for things I’ve done or said in the past. It’s even affecting my husband. He asked a friend to borrow a ladder so he could go up on the roof and clean out the gutters. Not only did our friend bring the ladder over, he leaned it against the house and immediately climbed up and started clearing the gutters.
Of all the changes I’ve experienced on this journey, I’m praying the kindness becomes contagious.
I was so happy that we were able to take time to review a few chapters of Haanel this week, especially 9 and 10. Some of the things I read were so much more impactful this time as I realized how much knowledge we have acquired in 18 short weeks. It was actually EXCITING to read knowing that we are creating our ideal lives. The first time I read 9 and 10, the words felt more like a mystery than a miracle.
I read chapter 9, did my sit and imagined a flower growing. It was a completely different experience than it was 9 weeks ago. The visualization was basically the same, but what really moved me was how I was able to compare my visualization to the growth of our own dreams. The seeds were able to draw everything they needed from the universe… me patiently removing the seedlings from a wet paper towel and transplanting them to a small pot of soil, then they utilized the rays of the sun, the minerals in the soil and the water I poured to create a spectacular Calla Lily from just a tiny seed. Part 10-8 “As the plant reaches down into the mineral world and touches it with the mystery of life, so the universal mind reaches down into the human mind and endows it with new strange, wonderful, marvelous qualities”
It was like a light bulb went off in my mind when I realized that this is exactly what is happening to us as we do the mental work and exercises to create our dreams from a seed, a thought coming to life.
I had a similar new experience with Chapter 11, “Whatsoever things ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them and ye SHALL HAVE THEM.” As I repeated those words in my mind, I visualized my dreams as being already here and the joy and excitement I felt during my sit was AMAZING. I was able to FEEL the emotions of achieving my dreams and give them more power to blossom. As the flower blossomed in my mind, so did my dream. It’s closer than ever now.
Nine weeks ago everything I read was just a concept. Now it is truth! I don’t have any clever closing words to add except, the Master Key Experience is the first time in my life that a ‘self-help’ course has changed my life. Thank you to all of my #MKE heroes.
Things are happening… I feel success coming my way. My disease will be cured. My business will explode, and I will experience the joy of good health and becoming a philanthropist. My health has improved enough to enable me to attend a training event last weekend. I drove alone for a 14-hour, 700-mile round trip. Just 2 years ago it was an effort to make it from the sofa to the bathroom. I felt compelled to go (not to the bathroom, to the event LOL.) The shocking thing was that there was absolutely no traffic the entire time. It was magical, as if the universe wanted me to actually enjoy the drive which is usually horrific bumper to bumper traffic. My husband ordered satellite radio for me the day before the trip (more kindness appearing in my life.) I had fun listening to oldies, singing, listening to my recorded voice, dancing in my car seat and reciting I can be what I will to be! I felt joy for the first time in ages.
The event was 2 days of corporate tours and training. While my company has been around for 26 years, they are not yet well known. While the products have been miraculous for me and tens of thousand of people, they originally marketed to the holistic medical community until 9 years ago. They are just a bit above ground floor. The people who persevered and worked hard these past 9 years are all 6 and 7 figure income earners. I know I finally found ‘the place to finish’ after 12 years of grinding it out with so many companies in Network Marketing. So many people who had retired or just given up have joined me.
When I arrived at the hotel, I checked my email for the agenda. There was a 4-hour training at the corporation. Then I saw another email ‘Congratulations, because of your efforts and rank, you have the option of attending a separate meeting with leadership at the hotel. What? Me? Why? As much as I wanted the product training, I felt like this special invitation was significant. I walked into the room and felt an amazing electric energy in the air. There were 300 people at the event and just 18 in this room. The owner and CEO/President, his son the COO, the field 6 and 7 figure earners and me, my sponsor and my friend Eddie. If I wasn’t a part of this Master Key Experience, I would have been certain a mistake was made by inviting me.
The CEO welcomed us all warmly. He said he wants to get to know the leadership and future leaders (me!!!!!) I must have cried a half dozen times when I heard their stories of miraculous healings and amazing financial results. They told us that the company is exploding and growing 27% per month. Apparently the million-dollar earners have all been doing their own thing as far as building their businesses. They asked us to all join hands, unite and help one another and all of our teams bring this company from being the ‘best kept secret’ to a billion-dollar company and a household name. Things are happening…. and I am ready!
I’m not exactly sure why, but this week, Haanel’s Chapter 16 gave me the feeling of hope and excitement. I’m pressed for time and that leaves little opportunity for introspection except for the 30 minutes I’ve allotted myself to write this blog. Wealth is a product of labor, yet my financial wealth has not yet arrived although I’ve labored in this industry for 12 years. I definitely possess the quality of persistence. I persist and I win. All of us are well aware that money doesn’t buy happiness. To me, health is the highest form of wealth, because without it money doesn’t mean much at all.
Steve Jobs, the pioneer of personal computers and co-founder of Apple computer, had so much money and unfortunately that couldn’t buy his health. I haven’t read much about his personal history. My guess is that he possessed many of the attributes that all of us in this class are learning and aspire to obtain. I’d love to be able to ask him when he found his DMP (Definite Major Purpose), when did he visualize the personal computer, how he constructed it in his mind and how often? I can’t imagine how a genius thinks but we all know it doesn’t take genius to be successful in reaching our dreams. We have all been blessed to find the Master Key Experience so that we learn the pathway to our dreams, whatever they may be.
Haanel 16-5 states ‘wealth should then never be desired as an end, but simply a means of accomplishing an end.’
That particular statement by Haanel made me happy because my #1 dream is health. My #2 dream is wealth. Health and Wealth as we know are subjective and relative. My healthy dream may label me as a sick person by society, just as my wealth goals are a mere fraction of a percentage of what Steve Jobs earned. The key is my ‘why’, my judgement of my own happiness and what is the end game of what I will accomplish?
Why do I want health? Because it’s alluded me for so long and because I need to be physically able to help the people I want to help. I want to be healthy so I can do more to help others. Wealth WILL be nice too but my intentions of what to do with that wealth is to help others. Of course, I intend to enjoy achieving these goals as I am a mere human. Hey, won’t it be nice when I’m healthy, debt free and smiling thinking about the thousands of people I have helped with my products and business opportunity. I’ll bet Steve J wasn’t thinking about dollars when his dream became his passion. Let’s all be grateful for the dreamers…. “He who lets a golden orbed thought roll through the generations of time” (H. W. Beecher)
This week we focus on Insight. I believe this course has given me more insight than I ever thought possible at this stage of my life. It seems that many people reach a certain point in life and they stop dreaming, hoping or searching for insight. When we look within ourselves and remember WHO we really are, our sight becomes 20/20. Many older people develop cataracts and even if they’re removed, most times they still can’t see much hope in the future. They just seem content to be able to see the TV better. I’ve seen it happen with people in their 40’s and more frequently to those in their 60’s and beyond. When this course (and my ‘business’) found me, I was in a dark place; disillusioned, sick and wondering if the end was near. In just a few short months, this experience has helped me to look within and gain insight on what I really, REALLY want. As I continue to explore my own mind, with persistence and focus, I know I’ll gain more insight on exactly how to make my dreams come true.
Most people aren’t blessed with the opportunity to even KNOW how to look within for answers. What a gift this course has been. Exercising our bodies is imperative for our health but we need to work just as hard on our minds to achieve the greatness within every one of us. As Og states so eloquently ‘I am nature’s greatest miracle. Never has there been another with my mind my heart my eyes, etc.’ The Master Key Experience has helped me to realize who I was meant to be and the greatness that lies within. I intend to let my life shine as a beacon of hope for others. I will be the first person cured of my rare disease and I’m already feeling better! Alleluia!
SUCCESS = Definite Major Purpose (backed by a burning desire) + Positive Mental Attitude + Written Plan of Action (expressed continually) + Mastermind Mind Alliance.
In the movie “Cool Running” they met 3 of these requirements; they were only missing a written plan of action. This is the first time I’ve seen this movie about the Jamaican Olympic bobsled team. Although allegedly the true story has been embellished/fictionalized for entertainment, the movie left me in tears.
Although they didn’t make their goal, they still achieved a different kind of success: admiration for their determination against all odds and realization of their self-worth. Their burning desire, positivity and teamwork (Mastermind) created a different kind of success – true pride in their efforts even if it was short of the goal. The changes in the 4 men and their coach were spectacular, a true hero’s journey. Imagine all that we will accomplish meeting all 4 conditions for success!
There were so many moments in the movie that linked me to what we are learning. When the character Yul Brenner hauled Junior over to the mirror and kept saying ‘What do YOU see?’, it so reminded me of our mirror work. If we/he can look in the mirror and love ourselves, we can be our own shield from negativity from others. Everyone ridiculed them yet they persevered.
Derice was the man with the burning desire. In the Blueprint builder by Napoleon Hill, we daily state ‘I succeed by attracting to myself the forces I wish to use and the cooperation of other people. I induce others to serve me….’ His journey in convincing the others and the coach to join him is a perfect example of this truth.
We started reading Scroll IV of Og’s book on January 1st. When the team acted like the Swiss bobsled team when launching the sled, they failed miserably. The character ‘Sanka Coffie’ said, “The best I can be is Jamaican.” They changed their whole approach to be themselves and their run was magnificent and record breaking. This so reminded me of this part of Scroll IV “Vain attempts to imitate others no longer will I make. Instead I will place my uniqueness on display…” BINGO! Yes we are all unique great miracles of nature.
Follow your dreams, focus, believe, be yourself (“the best I can be is Jamaican.”) it’s all there in this inspiring, heartwarming, funny movie.
It’s so wonderful to be learning from great minds like: Earl Nightingale, Charles Haanel, Og, Napoleon Hill, Emerson, etc. I read ‘Think and Grow Rich’ by Hill and a long list of success and ‘self-help’ books in my lifelong quest for peace, success and happiness. I learned a lot about the subconscious mind in my career as a hypnotist. I was a huge fan of Esther Hicks and Abraham and the law of attraction. I searched for health everywhere and often did the affirmations by the amazing Louise Hay from her book “You Can Heal Your Life.” I constantly listened to spiritual leaders like Wayne Dyer and Deepak Chopra. As a matter of fact, a book by Wayne Dyer “Your Sacred Self” completely changed my life.
I started the #MASTERKEYEXPERIENCE because I was attracted to the idea of learning more about the things I already loved. This experience seems to be the culmination of so many things that I already knew. The difference is that now I understand the ‘Why’ and ‘How’ of everything I’ve learned. We exercise our body for strength and health, and I’ve learned we need to do the same to tap into the beautiful and amazing power of our minds.
As I contemplated the magical quality of everything I’ve been learning, a song came on. It’s a 1985 song called “The Whole of the Moon” by the Waterboys. As I listened to the words, I connected them to this experience, I realized that all of my experiences and study led me here. Eleven words from the song actually brought me to tears “I saw the crescent; you saw the whole of the moon.”
Thank you #MKE leaders and guides for guiding me to see the rest of the moon.
I surprised myself through the Christmas week. We decided to drive 600 miles to spend the week with family and friends. I thought my old blueprint had been replaced and that I had the tools to deal with the “normal” negativity that I experienced around certain family members. I would have been OK except for the fact that I thought I could also take time off from my daily readings, exercises and affirmations. I was so busy that I rationalized the teachings before MKE that said it takes 21-30 days to form a habit. Mark is right, that’s total BS! It takes much longer to change.
So, on day 1 a negative drunken relative took it upon himself to make a nasty remark to me in front of 10 people. I didn’t say anything but was seething with anger. After dinner, I cried, seethed and sent him a text telling him what a ____ he is and that I don’t even want him in my home again.
When I woke up, I knew my reaction was wrong, coming from my old blueprint and that I was hurting my future self by my reaction. I also realized that everything we do on this journey matters, that we can’t skip a day a week or even a reading. The first thing I did was forgive him. He called when he read the text and said he had no recollection of what he said. I said, “No problem, I love you, let’s move on.” The law of forgiveness saved me from completely backsliding. I’m picking myself up and starting again with a renewed sense of determination and hope.
I send my negative unhappy relative my love.
